I am having a bad day. I went to bed last night with every intention of waking up this morning and conquering the world like the savvy business coach, graphic designing, woman-preneur I am. But, as you may have guessed by the title, things did not go according to plan. I woke up with a stye in my eye. Puffy and painful. I did not sleep well at all, so I am still groggy and tired. And I’m about to start my “time” (sorry guys – it happens) so, you know, I hate everything. Oh and then, after getting showered, dressed, make-uped – wich really felt like a feat itself – I realize I have washed my hair with conditioner. Insert face palm. I know you all know the feeling. And I know you all have had one of those days. Or may be having one now! Below is a list I formulated, not just from this experience but plenty of other days, that will hopefully help you conquer the day instead of hiding in bed or the corner of your office. Maybe you have some tricks and tips you can add? Feel free to comment below!!
- Deep Breaths. I know, I know – you are asking yourself, Can that really help?? The answer is YES!! Breathing is not just to keep us upright in our desk chairs, it helps us focus our thoughts. It helps us come back to the center of our being. Without breath we have no life. So think of those few breaths as breathing fresh life into your day! Repeat this step as many times as necessary!
- Change Your Perspective. I am a firm believer that everything in life is about perspective. The good, bad, ugly and everything in between. We attach those labels and meanings based on our perspective. As an intuitive business coach, this is often one of the biggest breakthroughs my clients can have. By changing your perspective you can change everything! Take my morning for example. I took a beat and decided to change my perspective about the situation and chose to turn it into a positive! A blog post that I hope will help people get through those tough days we all experience.
- Take Control. We as human people have a tendency to look outside ourselves for answers. To blame things out of our control. This is the easy way because we remove all personal responsibility from the equation. This can be a tough pill to swallow. I am not saying that all the hard circumstance are necessarily my fault, but I do have a responsibility on how I will react to them. And that is where I can become empowered! I can take control of my thoughts. Instead of “Why is this always happening, my day is ruined!”. Try “Well that is not how I want the rest of the day to go. This does not have to dictate my day! I will take Kelly’s advice and take a few breaths and start again.” 🙂
- Visualize. Everything has energy. Everything has a wavelength. I believe we all have auras and sometimes they can get muddled up a bit from the day to day. Especially after having a rough morning, day or week. I suggest taking a moment and visualizing some nice warm light filling up your personal space. This goes hand and hand with Step 1! When taking some breaths, imagine a bucket of light being poured all over you – lighting up your soul. Bringing calmness and peace. And pushing out all the negative, unfortunate, annoying circumstances that led you to this point.
- Hide. Yes hide. I realize you might be thinking that doesn’t make sense. But let me explain. Sometimes we just need to hide. Sometimes we need more than a few deep breaths to get us through. This is often due to over-worked, over-stressed, speed-of-light existence. So really, at times, the only way to break a rough day is to disappear and nurture ourselves. This can be difficult for some, depending on life and job circumstances. But if you can’t take a day, could you hide for 15 minutes? Or see about scheduling a “sick day” really soon? Taking care of ourselves is one of the most important jobs we have. I tell my clients this all the time. And it’s true for everyone!
I hope you find these helpful! If you have some ideas you would like to share please comment below!
Kelly J Parsons is a graphic designer, photographer and small business coach dedicated to helping businesses and individuals achieve their wildest dreams.
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